Thursday, July 8, 2010

Love and Marriage (thoughts on a Thursday morning.)

Marriage is about love like school is about knowledge. On the surface it seems obvious that it IS, but upon further reflection you realize that it really isn't at all. You can gain all the knowledge you are willing to work for (and some that just gets thrown in your face) outside of school. Some of the most intelligent people I know didn't go to very much school at all. School is about formality, about society, about showing you can play by the rules and having proof that you are indeed committed to a course of action and an outcome. School can be important, even vital, and I respect those who go to school to get a degree. They show a great deal of respect for self, for others, and for the rules that hold society together. Love and marriage seem the same to me. Love exists before, outside of, after, even during (if you're lucky) marriage. The heart can be extremely devoted without any outside institution granting "permission." Love might be the single biggest impetus for a marriage, but by no means should it be the only one. Marriage is about commitment, and ceremony, and living in a society. It's about legalities, and power of attorney, and asking the world to honor your commitment. Love can exist, even thrive without the formal institution of marriage, and good marriages can exist devoid of love (but they probably don't very often.) Yes, I think love and marriage (like knowledge and school) do not automatically involve each other at all. But with love and marriage, when you get the synergy of heartfelt devotion combined with social duty and responsibility, it can truly be an exquisite thing. Something to be striven for, in my opinion.

1 comment:

  1. I agree. Nice music, by the way. I once read somewhere that the divorce rate for arranged marriages is lower than that of people who pick for themselves. I think one of the reasons love deepens so amazingly over time is the built up return on the investment of things like commitment, fidelity, trust, etc.

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